Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade are sharing the emotional journey of their daughter’s birth.
The two of them welcomed their first child together, Kaavia James Union Wade, into the world on Nov. 7. She was born via surrogate and dubbed their “miracle baby” in a heartfelt Instagram post one day later. Union explained that the proper way to say Kaavia’s name is “Kah-Vee-Uh James.”
On Monday, the Being Mary Jane star shared a video on Instagram that gave a behind-the-scenes glimpse at the months leading up to Kaavia’s birth and why she and Wade went the surrogate route. Throughout her marriage to the Miami Heat basketball star, Union has been vocal about fertility struggles she faced over the years—including having “eight or nine” miscarriages. “It just feels like a lot of shame,” she said of her miscarriages. “Just years of shame and humiliation and betrayal of your body. It’s so many emotions.”
She explained in the caption that the road to Kaavia’s birth wasn’t exactly easy. “Every family is unique. How each family is created and comes together is special,” she wrote. “Kaavia James Union Wade’s journey into our arms was long and at times brutal. There were heartbreaks that nearly broke us and streams of tears that turned into raging rivers.”
Their baby was the light at the end of the tunnel. She added, “But then came Kaavia James. This is our birth journey. Thank you for all the love, support and understanding and all the people who held us up when we lost hope.”
Union revealed in the clip she has adenomyosis, which is essentially endometriosis in muscle.
She explained in the video that although she had the possibility of receiving a shot for her adenomyosis, the chances of getting pregnant were still slim. “We just decided as a family that the best and safest and probably our most successful route was a gestational carrier,” she shared.
Because she wasn’t carrying Kaavia herself, the Bring It On actress worried she would lack a special “bond” with her baby. “It’s a little odd, I guess. A little different for us but what isn’t going to a be little different for us?” she commented in the video. “That scares me.”
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Every family is unique. How each family is created and comes together is special. Kaavia James Union Wade’s journey into our arms was long and at times brutal. There were heartbreaks that nearly broke us and streams of tears that turned into raging rivers. And then came Kaavia James. This is our birth journey. Thank you all for the love, support and understanding and all the people who held us up when we lost hope. Watch it with love. Watch it with hope. (Full video on my IGTV)
The Heat player told his wife, “Hold on. I married you, I chose you first. There is no us without you.”
Wade told Oprah Winfrey in a new special called Oprah at Home with Gabrielle Union, Dwyane Wade & Their New Baby that he has one main priority for his growing family. “As a whole, just obviously health. That’s No. 1. I want us all to be as together as we can be,” he said in a clip exclusively obtained by E! News last week. “I want us to all support each other. I want us to all appreciate each other’s abilities in life and support each other no matter what.”
On Sunday, Wade and Union threw quite possibly the biggest tailgate-themed baby shower that included marching bands, cheerleaders, beer pong and more. Union, who is a Nebraska native, wore a University of Nebraska jersey with her name on the back. She also relived her 18-year-old glory days and proceeded to do a keg stand at one point in the night.
The NBA player hit a bog milestone of his own over the weekend: he played in his 1,000th pro basketball game.
Wade, who is already the father to three other kids, shared some other thoughts with Oprah about lessons he hopes to impart on Kaavia and the rest of his family. He stated, “I just want us to love each other. For us, I want to be able to see my kids’ kids have kids and be around. Experience them grow and see who they’re going to become in life. Hopefully they become people in this world that we’re trying to raise them to become.”